Keep Going…

Keep going…Don’t Quit…

Word’s I have been told a good bit lately. Words I have told myself a good bit lately. When it comes to healthy living…I have always been a quitter.

Why does junk food taste like it is from the hand of God himself?

At the beginning of June I set out on another journey of healthy living. I joined CrossFit Trussville and started their Reboot program. Reboot is a high-intensity interval training program. I had zero strength so actual Crossfit just wasn’t even on my radar, but this, this I could do. I may suck…but I can do it. I have loved every workout mainly because of the people. Everyone is so kind and accepting and they truly want to see you succeed. I have been embracing the suck, because you will never be good at something without sucking at it first. I also started counting my macros and eating better. Honestly, the past 13 weeks have been the healthiest I’ve eaten in years. I drink enough water and I eat well balanced meals with a splurge meal every now and then. I try to work out 4-5 days week – 2x a day three days a week. But I have yet to lose 1lb, I haven’t lost inches, and my clothes are not fitting better. I know, I know, I’m building muscle. That sounds great…but it doesn’t feel great.  

It is discouraging. That is a feeling I am very familiar with these days. Discouraged. It’s true that I am probably building muscle…but the fat isn’t going anywhere either. But I am working on changing my mindset – I’m not failing, something just isn’t working. I’ve tried to count my macros with a decent amount of carbs in order to sustain energy during these workouts, but I think carbs are issue. When I cut carbs, I lose weight. So…I am going to try this again, to cut carbs, not completely, but down to about 30g a day and cut my dairy drastically. Cutting dairy is harder for me than carbs because I LOVE CHEESE. So I am going to try the cutting of dairy for a minimum of 2 weeks and I’ll be low carb for about a month. I will weight, measure and then re-evaluate.

I know people say not to focus on the scale – and I’m not. I’m focusing on how I feel and how my clothes fit. And right now, my clothes don’t fit, and I really don’t feel well. My body hurts, my skin has a lot of problems, I have hypothyroidism, and I am just sad. I fixed my weight problem with surgery in 2013…but I didn’t change my life…and here we are again.

I am convinced I am on this journey for a reason. God wants me to do this on my own without medication or surgery. Now I don’t have an option. I don’t want to quit, I want to keep going. Sometimes my soul is just defeated. This journey is marathon, not a spring, 13 weeks is not a very long time in the grand scheme of things…I just wish I saw some progress. But I will keep going…I just have to make some adjustments. I will get to my goal.

I just have to repeat to myself – just keep going…

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adjective: jealous

1. feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.

How often do you admit when you are jealous of someone? Not often I am sure. That is not a cool thing to admit. But we all are, even if it is just for second. If you follow any of the Kardashian’s on social media, then I know you get jealous daily. I mean look at Kourtney…. that woman is almost 40, has had 3 babies, and is a SMOKE SHOW. If you don’t think so…ok. But let’s be real…she is. If you follow any IG influencers or workout people or models – I know there is envy felt on a daily basis. But when you look at people like that daily and automatically compare your life to them…it is hard for envy not to kick in…which sucks. Especially because all you are jealous of is that photo. As much as the Kardashians document their lives on social media…we still only see what they want us to see. We do not know their internal struggles or a lot of other stuff they are going through. The same can be said about people we know that we are envious over.

I hate admitting jealousy…but here we go…last year while I was pregnant, I was incredibly sick. I threw up 2-3 times a day…pretty much every day until after I had the baby. Yes, it didn’t stop right after I had him. It wasn’t as bad, but I was still sick a few times a week. I did not gain as much as most women do during pregnancy, but I was already over weight, so any weight gain was devastating to me. They took my baby at 33 weeks because of preeclampsia and he was in the NICU for 19.5 days. Now all of that was a miracle but that’s another story. Oh, not to mention we didn’t even have our own home yet. We had been living in my mom’s downstairs apartment/basement for over a year. We were renovating a house, but the renovating really hadn’t even begun. My best friend on the other hand, whom I adore – we have been best friends since we were very young. She is stunning, very intelligent, has an amazing job, great pregnancy (to my knowledge), and then when I walked into the hospital room to visit her – I couldn’t tell she had just had a baby. She’s a small person and I know she did not have her pre-baby body back after 24 hours, but in her super cute robe, with her hair and make-up done, I was very impressed. (Now I am not so naive to believe the appearance that was being put on. She just had a baby for goodness sakes, but that’s not what my jealousy was remembering.) As I was going through all of this – that is what I thought about…. jealousy set in, I wanted what she had. A great job, super nice house, nice car, a pregnancy where my baby wasn’t in a box and hooked up to machines 24/7, being able to hold my baby and not waiting until the doctor told me I could. I let appearances take hold of me. Now my hormones were of course all over the place, but those thoughts should have never crossed my mind. God worked everything out the way it was supposed to be. Michael Bruce would’ve been a stillborn if we would’ve gone full term. I was lucky enough to have my mom and my sister live with me and Bruce and help me right after I came home and when we brought Mike home. My C Section recovery was ROUGH. Talk about painful. I was so thankful to be there with them. We had a great support system around us who helped take care of me and Mike. Thankful and blessed are understatements.

Michael Bruce – 3 days old

While I’m admitting…here is another one for you. I went to lunch with a girl from work and she was telling the guy we were with where she lived, which happened to be in these nice apartments in our city. I knew her job position, but I really didn’t know everything her job entailed. But I knew my position and what my job entailed, and I know that even if I was single, there was no way I could afford to live there. Boom, jealous. Boom, assuming she makes more money than me. Boom, all these other little comments that popped in my head at the time. I also don’t know her story. We don’t know each other that well. I know what it was though, it was me, I want to make more money. I was jealous because I work hard, and I barely add enough to our income for us to pay all our bills. Struggling is an easy entry for envy…and it got me.

I don’t even want to give you examples of me being jealous of how other people look. That is my biggest downfall and I have plenty of examples and stories for that one. But I am going to pass. Let’s just say – I probably shouldn’t follow any models, fitness gurus, or Kardashians on social media. Heck, I probably shouldn’t be on social media. It is a breeding ground for comparison and jealousy.

Why does jealousy take over? Even for a short period of time? I don’t know – I am human I guess. It happens to me every day. I do not want to base my life on what other people have. I want to decide what I want and what is best for me and my family and then go for it. I want to work hard and earn what I get. The devil just finds your weaknesses and capitalizes on them when you are least expecting it. I need to remind myself that jealousy is only hurting myself. It destroys relationships. It causes the urge for control. It causes pain. I don’t want those things in my life.

God’s plan for me is not the same for my best friend or the girl from work. They are living their best lives and I should live mine. It is up to me to make the best of my situations and it is up to me to love my life. I only have one life, why not make it the best one that I can? I think that is what God wants for us anyways. If we must live in this fallen world, make the best of it.

Proverbs 14:30 says “A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes bones rot.” (ESV)

          1 Corinthians 13:4 – “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” (NIV)

Proverbs 23:17 – “Let not your heart envy sinners but continue in the fear of the Lord all the day.” (ESV)

Health & Food

What does every person associate with the south? Besides football…I’m sure you can figure it out within 2 guesses…. since I just gave you football…yep it is food. And they have every right to associate the south with food. We have the BEST food. Biscuits, homemade ice cream, casserole galore, and fried EVERYTHING!!! I mean we have fried chicken, fried pickles, fried green beans, fried zucchini, fried cookie dough, fried Oreos, fried cheese…I could go on. OH! and let’s not forget the staple of the south, sweet tea…which runs through my veins. So, being from Alabama, I know all about this food…and so do my thunder thighs and my waistline. We have food for every event. Wedding – best food you can find plus two amazing desserts, funerals – enough food to feed you for a month…at least, new baby – lets bring you food, you just got engaged – let’s have a BBQ, you just got dumped – I’m on my way with the ice cream…. you get the picture. I have a love hate relationship with food. I wish I saw food as what it is…energy to survive. However, I appreciate food for the taste instead of the contents. I think about this as I sit here snacking on my Chuychanga with creamy jalapeno sauce (yes, it is fried and delicious).

I have just agreed to compete in a diet bet with some friends I work with. One is getting married in October and she wants to shed some pounds before she gets her dress altered. The two others are in the wedding – another good reason to shape up. Then there’s me – I just like to try to do these things. Key word in that phrase is try…I always give up…I don’t want to say fail because I feel like to fail I would have to finish it and not quit. That is my problem…I am a quitter…when it comes to losing weight, as are most people. Losing weight is hard! It is a slow and uncomfortable process. You must limit junk food you like or cut it completely. You start eating food you do not like, and you feel like you are suffering. When you get on the scale after a week of this “suffering” and the scale is down 1lb…I don’t know about you but it makes me want a cupcake. Really, 1 lb. and I only ate green food all week? Ugh! This isn’t going to work – enters gas station and buys chips and coke. Cycle continues.

So, here’s some background about me and my weight/body image struggle. I have always struggled with weight, as did my dad and sister. My dad’s struggle was hard to watch – his weight eventually made him sick – heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, and he eventually had a heart attack and died. I decided that I didn’t want my life cut short either – I had tried diets, but I couldn’t stick to them, I had tried diet pills and they work, until you get off them – then you gain the weight back. I decided to do weight loss surgery – so in March of 2013 – I had the gastric sleeve procedure done. For those of you who do not know – this is when they go in and cut out a portion of your stomach. You are left with a stomach about the size of a banana. I was 220lbs when I had this surgery…lets fast forward 6 years later…I am now 28, 1-year post-partum and back up to 200 lbs. I am only 30lbs from my pre-surgery weight. Do not think that, oh she had a baby, give yourself a break. No – I did not gain 50 lbs. during my pregnancy. I gained 15 and I lost it all before I left the hospital. I had gained back up to 180 before pregnancy.

I tell you this, so you know that the surgery only works if you change your life. It did, for a while…but then I went back to eating whatever I wanted. Now…I’m unhappy again. I feel sluggish, lethargic, tired, lazy, any other word you can think of that is not good. If you ask me to describe myself…I will tell you about how fat my legs are, how flabby my arms are, how my hips are wider than my husband’s – therefore his jeans don’t even fit my hips, how my stretch marks are growing, how I can see my cellulite through my yoga pants, etc. That’s how I feel and that is what I see – so anyone who rebuts me, and I am being too hard on myself. Trust me – I know. However, this is how I feel – I don’t care what words you say to me – you will not change how I see myself. Only I can change how I see myself. That is what I am trying to do – change.

My husband was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis this year which is an autoimmune disease that effects the large intestine. When he has a flare up everything makes him sick. This started on Christmas Eve – he missed my family Christmas because he was in the bathroom for hours…without coming out. This went on for weeks. These weeks were very hard on him and on me. On top of taking care of our 1 year old, I was having to take care of him as well. He would get home from work and go straight to the bathroom and so many nights Mike and I would go to bed and be asleep before he ever came out. This was becoming an everyday thing and he finally got in with a gastro doctor. He was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis. He was in the middle of a flare up, but they said it was healing so that was good news. However, if he did not change his diet, flare ups were going to last longer and be more common. Well lets fast forward to 6 weeks later – nothing has changed. He knows he needs to change his diet – but he hasn’t, therefore we are in the middle of a flare up again. He literally just text me and told me how bad he’s feeling from eating the BBQ they catered in at his work. We talked about it this morning and I reminded him that he ate that a couple of weeks ago and had to leave work early because of how sick he got. His love for food…not loves…more like obsession for the taste and the fulfillment is taking over his need and want to take care of himself so that he will feel better. A BBQ sandwich is not worth 5 hours in the bathroom. However, I can say the same thing to myself – Savannah fries and ranch are not worth the feeling you are going to feel when your pants don’t fit next week. We choose the food over what is best for our body.

Food is energy that we need for survival. Would you fill your car up with gas that would make it run slower and cost you more money in maintenance? No, you wouldn’t. So why do we do that to our bodies? My goal is to fill my body with gas that makes it better, not worse. Yet I keep finding myself going back to the bad gas. I don’t understand it – but it is a bad habit that I am trying to break.

If you want to change your body – then just do it. Y’all, we only have one life. ONE! God has blessed us with this body – it is our job to take care of it. Yes, it would’ve been nice if he would’ve made it to where our metabolisms were awesome and being overweight or underweight could never be a thing, but I really think that was meant for the 7th day and God decided he needed a nap. And we know what happens with naps – we forget what we were going to do before we took the nap. Anyways – yes, it is hard – but it is doable. If you want to lose weight, burn more calories than you consume in one day. It really is that simple. Yes, there are other ways out there too, but if you are saying it is too complicated, then just count your calories. Download a food tracker app and count your calories. It does the math for you. We literally have no excuse. We are surrounded with ways to lose weight. The marketing for it is insane. It is just if we decide we are going to put in the work. I am telling myself this too – as I start my diet bet on Monday. Savannah – food is energy – it is not a treat, it is not an emotional support system, it is not a bad thing either. It is energy – that’s it – choose wisely. Wish me luck.

Hair & Marriage

How many women and men (man buns) grow your hair out? You long for these long luscious locks and you work so hard for them. Growing hair is hard – you must really take care of it. It is easy to just chop it off. Anyone can rock any kind of hair style with the right level of confidence. But long hair takes work. It takes years to grow out your hair. It takes lots of money and care to have long healthy hair. Now this long beautiful hair can get on our nerves sometimes. It gets all in our face, it takes too long to dry, it is too curly, it is too fine, I can’t style it, blah blah blah. Some days it is easier to just put it in a bun or a pony tail. There is nothing wrong with that. It is a style. One that you are comfortable with. You and your hair have come to an agreement like hey you’re getting on my nerves today, I’m putting you in a pony tail. And your hair is like alright cool I’m not sure why I’m all over the place today, we can work on this again tomorrow. 

So, people are going to wonder what the relationship between hair and marriage is. Here are some similarities:

Hair – Needs continued maintenance (Trimming)

Marriage – Needs continued maintenance

Hair – Needs to be put in its place once in a while (pony tail, bun) (Communication)

Marriage (spouse) – needs to be put in their place occasionally, (by good communication and discussion)

Hair – Needs to be washed and cared for so it doesn’t become soiled. (Cleansing)

Marriage – Needs to be cleansed with the word of God so it can still be beautiful.

Here are the similarities of how we choose not to take care of our hair or our marriage…

Hair – Ugh my hair is all in my face I’m going to cut it off.

Marriage – ugh my husband/wife is just a burden and so annoying, it is time to cut the cord.

Hair – I don’t like my hair color – so let’s change it.

Marriage – I don’t like my spouse anymore, so I need someone new. 

Hair – I don’t feel like taking care of my hair – so I’m just going to let it do whatever.

Marriage – I don’t feel connected to my spouse anymore and it is too much of hassle to try to fix it. So, I’m going to do what I want.

Hair and Marriage – never knew they could be compared. So, let’s say you give in and cut your hair off…. I have done this and instantly regretted it. Like cried immediately after. You can’t get it back. It is cut off…it is gone, permanently – you cannot pick it up and put it back on. You thought that change would fulfill you and make you feel better. But it made you feel worse. You loved your long hair, but you decided out of haste and off feelings.

Just like hair – marriage takes work. It takes maintenance, communication, cleansing.

Maintenance –trimming to keep healthy and not let the ends die. (When the ends split and are dead – it will keep moving up through the hair to the root)

Communication – work on your problems – talk it out – let each other know your concerns. Some days someone just needs to be in a pony tail. Time to chill out and regroup but still partners.

Cleansing – Hair needs to be washed at least every couple of days or else it gets soiled and looks greasy and gross. Marriage needs spiritual cleansing. If you go for extended periods of time without spiritual cleansing – your marriage will start to soil.

We are so quick to just cut the cord on our marriages and relationships. We forget how hard we worked on our relationships. How much we have been through, the awkward phase (back of the neck), the starting over phase because we let too much die and didn’t give it the maintenance it needed, and compromise with different styles and pony tails. And we really forget the love we have for our long luscious locks and our marriages and relationships.

We need to be reminded to the time and effort we put into our relationships and marriages. It is not worth it to destroy it out of haste. Even if your marriage is a little out of whack – you just need a little bit of communication, cleansing and maintenance to get back to a healthy relationship/marriage. Don’t give up – there is too much effort to let it go so easily. 


Maintenance – Ephesians 4: 31-32: Never be bitter, angry, or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil. Be kind and loving to each other. Forgive each other the same as God forgave you through Christ.

Cleansing – Philippians 4: 8-9 – Brothers & sisters, continue to think about what is good and worthy of praise. Think about what is true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected. And do what you learned and received from me – what I told you and what you saw me do. And the God who gives peace will be with you.

Communication & Compromise – Ephesians 4:2 – Always be humble and gentle. Be patient and accept each other with love.